“It feels lonely, unfamiliar…”: Jennifer Lopez Reveals 2 Biggest Life Lessons After Ben Affleck Divorce

Jennifer Lopez is one of the biggest superstars in the world, thanks to her love for performing and the show business as a whole. She has been a fixture in the spotlight for decades, but before she became a part of this industry, she was just a middle child who craved attention like so many others.

Now that she has the attention of millions of people, does it mean that things have gotten easier for her? It does not take a scientist to guess that the answer is a blatant ‘no’ because fame comes with its downside.

Lopez has also been married a couple of times. Her marriage to Ben Affleck convinced the world, and perhaps even her, that this was it; this was the fairy tale ending she deserved. That bubble also burst as the two of them parted ways, and now the actress is divulging the 2 big lessons she has learned from this.

Jennifer Lopez Has Finally Learned That Happiness Comes from Within

Jennifer Lopez wanted to be an entertainer from an early age, and this decision did not sit well with her family. It was not an easy journey without familial support at the beginning, but the Jenny on the Block singer refused to give up and kept working hard to get where she wanted. Needless to say, she succeeded at doing what she so dearly wished to.

Despite all her achievements, she is still just a woman who has been looking for the right person to come along and sweep her right off her feet. Her dating life has been quite happening for the most part, but her romance with Ben Affleck is easily the highlight of it all.

The past summer has been hard for Lopez considering her split from Affleck, but it also helped her realize some things. One of these things is the fact that happiness does not come from relationships. During her conversation with Nikki Glaser for Interview magazine, she admitted that she learned to be happy on her own the hard way. What does “hard” look like?

It feels lonely, unfamiliar, scary. It feels sad. It feels desperate. But when you sit in those feelings and go, “These things are not going to kill me,” it’s like actually, I am capable of joy and happiness all by myself. Being in a relationship doesn’t define me.

Lopez has realized that she can’t be looking for happiness in other people and that happiness comes from within. She admitted she used to think that she was a happy person, but still looked for other people to make her happy. That mindset has certainly changed.

What Does True Love Look Like to Jennifer Lopez?

True love certainly does not look like Ben Affleck, who everyone assumed would be the Love Don’t Cost a Thing singer’s ride or die. Lopez knows the answer to this question and it is exactly what one would expect from a wise woman like herself.

Somebody who truly loves you will help you heal those parts of yourself. That’s what I’ve learned about love, that it is a secure thing. You make me feel safe, and when I fall short of the glory, you understand me and you help me to grow to be better, because you have your boundaries and I have my boundaries.

Love does not mean perfection. It means that the lovers work on their flaws together to get better for each other instead of treating each other differently because of their flaws. That said, Lopez is not looking for anyone new. She is content with herself and she admits that it is the first time she has been able to say it as a single woman.