“I constantly went back to men that had abused me”: Bella Hadid Hints at Being in an Abusive Relationship with The Weeknd While Opening up about Toxic Past
Bella Hadid revealed that she was in an abusive relationship because she did not have s-xual, physical, or emotional boundaries. The model has been transparent about her struggles with anxiety and the modeling industry.
The supermodel also acknowledged that she has a long history of issues with people-pleasing, which has led her to sacrifice her comfort and safety in the past, both in her professional and romantic relationships. According to Hadid, she is trying to break the cycle and see herself in a healthy place now that she is self-aware and trying to do so.
Bella Hadid on feeling that she was ‘less important’
During an interview on Victoria’s Secret’s VS Voices podcast, supermodel and sister to Gigi Hadid, Bella Hadid opened up about how she never felt that her voice was ever heard while she was growing up and that led to the complications she started to face in her daily life.
Hadid continued,
“Now I’m able to open up and speak my mind, especially within my relationships and within my family. I grew up around men — whether that was in relationships or family or whatever that was — where I was constantly told that my voice was less important than their voice.”
During her interview with InStyle, she explained that she took the decision to reduce the intake of alcohol to help her with anxiety and said, “There’s just this never-ending effect of, essentially, you know, pain and stress over those few drinks that didn’t do much.”
Bella Hadid being candid about being in an abusive relationship
Supermodels, celebrities, and those in positions of authority may seem to have absolute control over everything, but people often overlook the fact that they are just like everyone else and experience everyday struggles. The model said during the interview that her adult relationships were severely impacted by her inability to set boundaries, defend herself, and have her voice heard.
Bella Hadid notes, “My nervous system would crash. It was fight or flight. … That’s something I really had to work on, where I constantly went back to men – and also women – that had abused me, and that’s where the people-pleasing came in.” She further continued to explain to host Amanda de Cadenet, “I started not having boundaries — not only s-xually, physically [and] emotionally, but then it went into my workspace.”
“I didn’t want to associate with any people. I didn’t want to have any friends, I didn’t want to have any family. So [in] my work, I became to be a people-pleaser with my job. It was everyone else’s opinion of me that mattered except for my own, because I essentially was putting my worth into the hands of everyone else. … Even though I know that this is not good for me.”
Hadid points out that because of this behavior, she went into a dark hole of autopilot mode in her career as she was never able to pat herself on the back and remind herself of all the hard work she had done to be where she was overlooking all of her accomplishments.
Bella Hadid on seeking professional help
Supermodel shared that, “I was in this circle constantly of the same routine. … It sounds very cliché, but to not have the energy of everyone else and their projections being projected back onto you is one of the most powerful things of all time.” She continued that staying off social media and seeking medical and professional help has helped her in setting boundaries and doing better in terms of her romantic relationships and her career as well.
Although it is difficult to determine which relationship she meant when she said that she returned to the abuser and it began to negatively affect her mental health, fans have suggested that it may have been The Weeknd, whom she dated from 2015 to 2019. They tried to make their relationship work, but it just did not work out for them, according to a source who spoke to them after their breakup.
Source: US Magazine
