‘This doesn’t feel good. Why am I never happy?’: As Divorce Trouble With Ben Affleck Escalates, Jennifer Lopez Contemplates Why Last 3 Marriages Ended in Failure Despite $450M Fortune
Jennifer Lopez has had her fair share of failed relationships and her current marriage with Ben Affleck is rumored to be in shambles as well. However, as of now, it is all conjecture based on insider reports. The two have had altercations about Affleck’s smoking habits which really gets on Lopez’s nerves. Meanwhile, the missus went forward and trashed the Good Will Hunting star’s motorcycle collection to teach him a lesson. All of this spells chaos and marital problems. The question is, can the couple work through it, or will it also end in another failed marriage for both of them?
JLo recently talked about the reasons that her previous relationships couldn’t work out, and maybe it is for her to introspect if her current one is meant to or not…
Why Jennifer Lopez’s previous relationships never worked out
Jennifer Lopez recently talked to Vogue about her former stints at love and why they always ended badly for her. According to the Selena star, it was her selfless attitude due to which she never prioritized her happiness over her partner’s. She said,
“I just didn’t understand what it was to care for myself, to not put somebody else’s feelings and needs—and your need for them to love you—in front of taking care of yourself.”
Before tying the knot with Ben Affleck, the On The Floor singer had been married to Ojani Noa, Chris Judd, and Marc Anthony, whom she shares twins, Max and Emme with.
The 53-year-old further shared how she always “put herself second… thinking that’s a noble thing” only to realize that is not the case.
“Those patterns become deep patterns that you carry with you, and then at a certain point you go, ‘Wait, this doesn’t feel good. Why am I never happy? I really felt that way for a long time. And finally, I was just like, ‘Ugh! It’s time to figure me out because I need to be good for these babies.’”
And the change was not an easy process either, the Ain’t Your Mama singer “took years and years” to “really put the pieces together” even when she had “all the willingness” to grow.
Jennifer Lopez moved on from failed relationships through “self-love”
The Hustlers actor further went into the details of how she went about her growth, setting boundaries, her definition of self-love, and the process through which she recovered from her failed relationships. She said,
“I have to forgive myself for the things that I did that I’m not proud of, the choices that I made that worked against me. Self-love is really about boundaries. Learning what you’re comfortable with and putting up the boundaries, not being afraid of the consequences.
Knowing that in taking care of yourself, everything will turn out OK, that people will treat you the way you want to be treated and your life will feel good to you. For a long time, I was just like, ‘Yes, do whatever you want! I can take it, I’ll be here, because I’m really strong, and I’ll be fine.’ Little by little, it chips away at your self-worth, your self-esteem, your soul.”
It remains to be seen what turn her present marriage with the Gone Girl star will take. The two are after all two decades in the making. They were engaged back in the early 2000s but called it quits only to find their way back to each other eventually. But as the honeymoon phase waned, things are slowly taking a turn for the worse.
